When we talk about Midlife we talk about Midlife Crisis, but midlife is not just about the crisis, There are many great things about it.
For me personally, I am not worried whether the glass is half empty or full, what is important for me is “what’s inside it” 😉
The phrase “midlife crisis” was first coined by the Canadian psychoanalyst Elliott Jaques in 1965 when he was 48.
Mid Life crisis can hit anytime between 30’s to 60’s and can involve anyone.
With men, the mid-life crisis hit when they begin to analyse their growth, achievements, success on the professional & financial front.
For women Mid-life crisis strike with judgment on their professional life post motherhood, physical appearance & changes, feeling less desirable, relationships with their close ones ,changing roles plus what is in store with them once their nest is empty and the frustration of ageing process.
Generally the feeling of “not having achieved much “with passing time is what bothers people. The feeling of not being loved or the feeling of falling in love again, longing for adventure in life or to have the same enthusiasm back, puts people in despair.
“Middle age is not the beginning of the decline, but a time to reach for the highest in our selves. Middle age is a pause to re-examine what we have done and what we will do in the future. This is the time to give birth to our power.”
For me, this phase of life is a Mid-Life TRANSITION, a time to re-evaluate and reassess or to take a stock of my life so far, a reappraisal, a learning period to change myself for what I want to do next. Time to follow up with my concerns be it health,sex,love or professional life. It’s a temporary insanity in disguise, which I want to enjoy.
I would suggest you too should feel absolutely OKAY with this transition of life and deal with it, in a relaxed manner and find opportunities in this chaos.
- Consider this as a beginning of a new phase. Chalk out your plans, make a list of your unachieved dreams and desires & hit on to them. You are more sensible now to achieve them, turn your passions into reality.
- Talk it through with your closest ones. Share what is bothering you and find a way out.
- Get out of your regular routine. The world won’t stop functioning if you leave your home. Step out do things that make you feel content and challenged.
- Take charge of your body. A healthy body is a great morale booster. Don’t ignore your physical appearance. Dress up,wear makeup & step out of the house with a bright smile.
- Trust yourself. You are not the only one going through this transition. All your friends and knows are also going through the same. Compliment yourself for having the sensibility to evaluate your life and work towards it.
- Stop worrying obsessively about everything happening in your life.
- Channelize your energies on your strengths instead of regrets. Bygone are bygones. Look forward to things in life rather than looking back.
- Wear your sports shoes and step out. Get fit. Breathe that fresh air and let all the heaviness get out of your mind.
Not to confront with your own self on this transition can lead to feelings of anger,hurt,depression,low self-esteem or sadness.
Embrace this midlife with a smile.You are fortunate to experience it.
As you did not avoid adolescence, midlife is inevitable too and there is no one particular way of spending it. There is only YOUR way. Embracing it gracefully will show your sign of maturity. Celebrate EVERYTHING that midlife has to offer.
Take the load off yourself. Be Patient and Kind to yourself. Be Fabulous