I don’t know about you but with a 8 year old son, a blog on hand, Bed and Breakfast business and a household to look after with an added active social life and my erratic running schedules for staying healthy, a lunatic like me tries to do it all and I feel (In fact I KNOW) that since I am constantly rushing from one task to another, I can see life just zooming past me and I am missing out on a little day to day joys that come with motherhood.
I must admit that while I am there in body, sometimes my mind is already racing in advance thinking about everything else I need to do. I am on the constant go, doing certain things which matter and certain things which don’t even matter, but I am busy busy busy all the time.
My son is turning 8 this March and now it’s hitting me how fast time flies. Some days I feel I am failing at motherhood and at my jobs.
It’s true that life has gone far easier with microwaves, washing machines, cell phones, but despite these conveniences the life has gone more demanding and complex.
No doubt we’re stressed out, “The housework is never ending” “the office challenges are huge”, they come back to home with us, plus we want the BEST of everything in our life.
Whether the hitches of today is our own mistake or the price we are paying for living in the modern world, or are we just an age bracket of whiners? Whatever it is -We need to Slow Down.
It’s time I just pause, breathe in and take it easy.I need to get over the guilt of not doing justice to my own life.
- I need to remind myself it’s absolutely fine if the room has toys everywhere.
- It’s fine if there are dirty clothes everywhere soon he is going to shift in another room and then stay busy in his own world.
- Shouldn’t feel guilty if I yelled at him before he left for school, it’s normal if we lose our mind sometimes, once back cuddle them more, kiss them hard and feel OKAY!
- It’s absolutely all right If I need a girls night or date night once a week! — Won’t ever let anyone make me feel guilty for time away from my son. I deserve it. Gonna fill my wine glass too 😉
- Won’t feel guilty about dropping an activity, a class, a birthday party he was supposed to go to, instead will be happy that I spent that time with him.
After all as he grows up, of what he is going to remember and what is going to stay with him are the cuddles we did, the silly laughs we laughed, the way I held him, the way I helped him choose his clothes and all the bonding times, not just the picks and drops for his classes.
Want him to remember the last minute plans we made and went to park for a run or our small rides to ice cream parlours.And I want to remember the sparkle in his eyes with these tiny happy moments than the heavy heart of just doing the routine stuff.
I know I’m not the only mum facing this. We’re worn out, burned out, and sick. It shouldn’t be this way, and that’s not what motherhood is all about. We’re just trying to do too much of everything, and that’s why we’re not doing anything well.
So all Mamma’s out there SLOW DOWN.
Enjoy these mad moments full of love.
Enjoy the muddy clothes.
Enjoy the cuddles and baby fragrances; HUG them tight before they start running away from you.
Childhood is not here to stay; this time will fly away in the blink of an eye.
So hold the hands of your little ones and just STAY. Live the moment, even if it’s just for a few minutes every day. Let’s not get jammed up in the chaos of life. Let’s enjoy these sweet days while we can. Because they’ll be gone before we know it.