Adopting hobbies

When one of my guests asked me “so what are your hobbies”? I was quite for some time and just kept rolling my eyes, I actually had no answer.

Like really? I seriously have no hobbies?

There was a time in my life where I would have been able to answer that question in seconds.When we were growing up our free time was spent in pursuing our favourite hobbies, we all did stuff as kids but mostly stopped when adulthood got into the way.

Whatever reflection we choose to present to the world, we all have our hidden passions.

Most of us lose ourselves in marriage, motherhood, professional life or social obligations that we gradually start fading away from ourselves, our interests and our passions without even realising that it is happening.

exercise-969300_960_720“I am inclined into fitness,” I answered eventually, but the answer felt synthetic, like something I’d say in a job interview. I mean, I wasn’t lying. I do love to keep myself fit. But in reality, I knew how much time I was giving to my fitness regime.

So what was I into? How was I spending my free time?

The answer in all probability won’t amaze you:

Social media has taken over my free time and my creative side has gone way to low.

I used to think that hobbies are just a way to kill time but now with time, I am realising that having a hobby you are passionate about can give you a great amount of motivation, satisfaction and direction.

Actually, hobbies are good for our overall health and well-being in many ways. We tend to lose our self, forget about time, and come back feeling different.

In my city itself, I have seen many women who have explored their own style of cultivating pleasure.

  1. This friend of mine gets up at 5 am to jog as she is into marathons, for absolute joy of it, and comes back home before her daughter is even up for school.
  2. Another friend after sending her kids off to school teaches Zumba and has discovered a passionate way for keeping herself and others fit.
  3. This friend with two little ones and a hotel to take care of still takes time out to do custom bridal wear as that’s her passion.
  4. My sister every day takes out one hour from her super busy schedule to do her mosaic to bust the work stress.

Our hobbies are typically what we do with “Our Time” and committing ourselves to this our time helps us unwind and loosen up completely, giving us the energy to hit the ground again.guitar-1942771_960_720

There are so many advantages to having an authentic, real-world hobby.Apparently, any physical or sport related hobby is going to make you fit and healthier in general. But hobbies have many psychological and emotional benefits as well.

Whenever we are spending our time in any hobby we’re in that state of “flow” when time flies, and we’re completely present with the activity. This “flow” state actually reduces stress and provides a great sense of well-being and contentment.

Also, any hobby that involves some level of challenge or concentration will improve your mental strength. Hobbies shape our personalities, energise, inspire and connect us with other like-minded people. They often end up giving our life its meaning and bring great joy and peace so, it’s worth the time we are investing in it.

If you don’t have a hobby now, or if you haven’t practised it in a long time, Discover now and you will discover your truest self. Know your gifts and talents. What is it that you love to do or really been wanting to do?

Make a plan to integrate hobbies into your life. Keep some time each week, whatever works for you and stick to it.  Make an effort to try new things.

sportsSo if you thinking “what about me”? As a kid, I loved playing badminton and basketball. Lately, I’ve been looking for a way to get to exercise and get out into the outdoors (well, at least our local park), so I’ve recently started biking and plan to do it regularly. So this not only helps me to keep myself fit but also is a fun activity which I can do with my friends.

So now let me ask you: What are you into? What’s your hobby?

I brave you to think about the things that make you unwind. The things you keep saying you want to practise “when you have more time.”

The bottom line is: It doesn’t really matter what you choose to do, as long as it’s something you love, which taps your creativity and lets u loosen up.

Give yourself the time to be drawn into something.

And UNWIND!

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Rowa by Ruchi

We all have our passions and we generally choose to follow our passions when we think we can justify our time and put in all our efforts into it and just want to feel happy. Some of us write, some draw, some sing, dance, or some bake.

Rowa by Ruchi offers a huge variety of hand painted silk scarves which is again a passion turned into reality.

Ruchi as creative and enthusiastic as ever always had this passion for working with watercolours that developed into painting silk scarves that give the watercolour painting effect on her work.IMG_8424

It all started with my colossal love for scarves. They have always defined my individual style, and have always been my much-loved “mood maker”. Says Ruchi

Started in May 2014, Rowa means a  lovely vision which is a Persian word.

Rowa offers unique artistic hand painted silk scarves, silk wraps and silk shawls.

Each piece is lovingly hand painted with a free hand which is very rare, no silk screening or manufacturing are used to create this one of a kind hand painted wearable art with no two pieces being exactly the same.

The majority of her work is nature-inspired with predominantly floral prints. Each layer has a deep personal touch as silk cannot stand carelessness and recklessness.IMG_8425

 

Every scarf that comes to life from loving hands in a labour intensive, multi-step process that takes several days, tells a story of celebration of natural, high quality and safe dyes which are friendly on skin and maintains the best luminosity of color and softness of the silk and that’s exactly how Rowa has found patronage with buyers who search for delicate and posh handmade scarves.

 

Ruchi says “My intention has always been to take the silk scarf to a new level, making it nearly a piece of jewellery that any girl can wear on a daily basis life”

The scarves are of a very light and transparent silk which makes them suitable to wear throughout the year.IMG_9389

Stylish, fresh and delicate these scarves are one of the most loved accessories that add an extra touch of elegance to both men and women casual and business attire.

These luxurious silk scarves will supplement your wardrobe with colour, shine and originality. They are awesome for travelling or elegant evening events, pocket squares or a shoulder cover up.

Please “like” Rowa by Ruchi on Facebook where you will find the latest updates and work-in-progress, plus ways to reach out to her to gift your loved ones these delicate pieces of beauty.

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Wearable art, a perfect gift of love and appreciation, a direct contact between the artist and a customer that’s my piece of beauty around my neck – Grab yours now.

Slow Down Mumma

I don’t know about you but with a 8 year old son, a blog on hand, Bed and Breakfast business and a household to look after with an added active social life and my erratic running schedules for staying healthy, a lunatic like me tries to do it all and I feel (In fact I KNOW) that since I am constantly rushing from one task to another, I can see life just zooming past me and I am missing out on a little day to day joys that come with motherhood.

I must admit that while I am there in body, sometimes my mind is already racing in advance thinking about everything else I need to do. I am on the constant go, doing certain things which matter and certain things which don’t even matter, but I am busy busy busy all the time.

My son is turning 8 this March and now it’s hitting me how fast time flies. Some days I feel I am failing at motherhood and at my jobs.

It’s true that life has gone far easier with microwaves, washing machines, cell phones, but despite these conveniences the life has gone more demanding and complex.

No doubt we’re stressed out, “The housework is never ending” “the office challenges are huge”, they come back to home with us, plus we want the BEST of everything in our life.

Whether the hitches of today is our own mistake or the price we are paying for living in the modern world, or are we just an age bracket of whiners? Whatever it is -We need to Slow Down.

It’s time I just pause, breathe in and take it easy.I need to get over the guilt of not doing justice to my own life.

  • I need to remind myself it’s absolutely fine if the room has toys everywhere.
  • It’s fine if there are dirty clothes everywhere soon he is going to shift in another room and then stay busy in his own world.dsc02488
  • Shouldn’t feel guilty if I yelled at him before he left for school, it’s normal if we lose our mind sometimes, once back cuddle them more, kiss them hard and feel OKAY!
  • It’s absolutely all right If I need a girls night or date night once a week! — Won’t ever let anyone make me feel guilty for time away from my son. I deserve it. Gonna fill my wine glass too 😉
  • Won’t feel guilty about dropping an activity, a class, a birthday party he was supposed to go to, instead will be happy that I spent that time with him.

After all as he grows up, of what he is going to remember and what is going to stay with him are the cuddles we did, the silly laughs we laughed, the way I held him, the way I helped him choose his clothes and all the bonding times, not just the picks and drops for his classes.

Want him to remember the last minute plans we made and went to park for a run or our small rides to ice cream parlours.And I want to remember the sparkle in his eyes with these tiny happy moments than the heavy heart of just doing the routine stuff.

I know I’m not the only mum facing this. We’re worn out, burned out, and sick. It shouldn’t be this way, and that’s not what motherhood is all about. We’re just trying to do too much of everything, and that’s why we’re not doing anything well.

So all Mamma’s out there SLOW DOWN.

Enjoy these mad moments full of love.

Enjoy the muddy clothes.

Enjoy the cuddles and baby fragrances; HUG them tight before they start running away from you.

Childhood is not here to stay; this time will fly away in the blink of an eye.

So hold the hands of your little ones and just STAY. Live the moment, even if it’s just for a few minutes every day. Let’s not get jammed up in the chaos of life. Let’s enjoy these sweet days while we can. Because they’ll be gone before we know it.

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Cheering quotes for Women

In testing times we all give in to feelings of self-doubt and step down from challenging situations.

Whenever stuck, it is so significant to have a couple of strong, self-determining women one can look up to. They can encourage you to become a strong woman yourself who deals through difficult times with buoyancy.

At times it just takes these little reminders in life that helps us to realise amazing powers that lie within us. Apart from that, the extracts empower us to be confident in becoming the strong women we want to be and leave all negativity behind.

I here have curated a list of my favourite quotes — from personalities living and dead, authors and actors, leaders and lovers activists and athletes, singers and dancers—all women. Each of these is so powerful in its own manner; that inspires, empower and jog our memory on how powerful we truly are.

Jointly, they form an inspiring stew, cheering us to take hold of life, incite the fire of self-worth, motivation and a charm of spunk within us.

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Just quotations can’t change our life but they can change our perspective and our day and anything is possible post that.

  • “I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” – Estée Lauder
  • “Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror”. – Byron Katie.
  • “I define Joy as a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace- a connection to what matters” – Oprah Winfrey
  • “When the whole world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful.” – Malala Yousafzai
  • “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” – Maya Angelou
  • “The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” –Ayn Rand
  • “Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.” – Alice Walker
  • . Ageing is not ‘lost youth,’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength. —Betty Friedan
  • “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” – Nora Ephron
  • “It’s not your job to like me, it’s mine”. — Byron Katie
  • Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is. —Anne Frank
  • “If you think taking care of yourself is selfish, change your mind. If you don’t, you’re simply ducking your responsibilities.” –Ann Richards
  • “Be first and be lonely.” – Ginni Rometty
  • Do not bring people in your life who weighs you down. And trust your instincts … good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with. —Michelle Obama
  • Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be. —Elizabeth Gilbert
  • It needs to be said and heard: it’s OK to be who you are. –Hailee Steinfeld
  • “I learned to always take on things I’d never done before. Growth and comfort do not coexist.” — Virginia Rometty
  • If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. —Katharine Hepburn
  • “One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.”– Simone de Beauvoir
  • “I urge all women to believe in themselves and in the fact that they are capable of running a successful professional as well as family life.” – Chanda Kochhar MD, ICICI Bank
  • “You can fall, but you can rise also.” – Angelique Kidjo
  • “Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.” — Diane Sawyer
  • “Some of the senior people, the very senior astronauts shook my hand and said,”K.C., you did a great job. Don’t let anyone tell you different.” – Kalpana Chawla
  • “Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are”. – Beyonce

    So wear that smile, my girls, as it still is the sexiest curve on your body 😉

Resist nothing, be relentless, love selflessly, stay motivated and Carpe Diem my friend.

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Offline is the new Online

We all have been reading quite a few articles currently on the damage the digital world is doing to us, how we should unplug and how we are drifting apart as a society.

My first experience on going off technology was when last year I went for my 10-day silent meditation course called Vipassana

At Vipassana, one is supposed to submit their phones, laptops on the very first day and not supposed to even take a paper and a pen.

The first day of this disconnect I felt extremely weird and thought it was a Big Mistake, Staying away from my family( especially my 7-year-old son )  for 10 days plus no phone no source of contact was beyond my own imagination of what I was really doing.It took me hours to sleep the very first night as the ritual before retiring to bed had been being on social media till my eyes would give up. After tossing and turning around for hours and wondering why I did this to myself I finally slept.

The next few days were uneasy but since we used to do a lot of meditation there, I quickly adjusted to the setup and started enjoying being close to nature and rediscovering myself.

The actual unplugging happened when I consciously decided to go off facebook, twitter and put my notifications off on WhatsApp.
I quickly realised how lonely I was feeling with this disconnect. I had no idea what my family and friends were up to or what was happening in my surroundings. My mind at times would play the old trick Ummm, wonder what time is it? Just check your phone”!!

spvhcbuki6e-william-ivenWe all have that yearning to stay eternally connected and the moment we are not connected there is a lot of unrest amongst us. None of our digital equipment’ breathe or have a pulse still we end up giving more time and value to them rather than the people sitting close to us.

    I still was convinced with myself that it was a wrong decision on going off digital as I was feeling so low and lonely and clueless until something really wonderful happened.

I got a call from one of my most unexpected facebook friend who called to check on to me if I was okay! As she realised I was missing from the social media.

Even after hanging up the phone I still kept feeling so wonderful about how she took the time to call and check on me.

Gradually I realised things were changing, The fact was I was rediscovering myself and my interests, started doing things which I had always wanted to do but due to lack of time was ignoring and the level of distraction was so low NOW, I was working more efficiently because phone was not in my hands anymore and my total focus was on the work I was doing.

This unplugging helped me learn how to live in the present with the people who were near me, helped me restore the balance in my life, and helped me celebrate the power of true connection and not the digital connections.

Unplugging from the online world is important for our wellness, it’s not possible every time to take up a retreat or a silent meditation but it’s always in our hands to leave the phone behind and go for a long walk, enjoy the nature.

We need to understand that Life at its best is happening right in front of us, we need to appreciate what is happening now, this moment will never come back, these conversations are authentic and unfiltered nothing is photoshopped.But if we are too busy staring down at our screens, we’re going to miss the beauty of this moment.

Life is still about touch, eye contact, feelings, flesh, blood, we need to feel all of it than the lifeless screens. The most valuable thing we can give to our loved ones, our friends is our own presence.

Roshi Joan Halifax made this beautiful observation: Though social networking can bring us closer together, nothing can replace warm hand-to-warm-hand contact.

Many of us post reading this are going to say “Oh I am not addicted to social media, I give enough time to my family and friends”. If that is so let’s do this addiction test because addiction can only be understood when the object is taken away.

Try to keep your electronic gadgets away on every weekend and see how you feel about it? What changes you see in your life?

  • All I want to convey is be mindful of your reasons for connecting to technology.
  • Get the most important things done and let go of the rest.
  • Power down for one time of every day.
  • Make a plan for phone and computer free time so that you can get the most out of it.
  • Don’t take technology to bed: It’s not your partner, so don’t treat it like one.

The Internet is an important part of our life and most of us do business with it. I understand that there are situations where we need to connect with home or work.

For me, in no manner, it is going away. That is why once in a while getting OFF it makes sense to me.

Right now am trying to build a digital-free practice at home for which the work is still in progress 😉

As you wean yourself off electronics, amplify the time and enjoy the results. Switching Off will only help Switching On the real connections.

photo-1461595520627-42e3c83019bcLike now I try to relax more with a walk in the park, Sit over coffee and talk, watch sunsets, bond with nature, eat and enjoy food and wine 😉 and just connect with life the old fashioned way! Cheers to tech detoxing!

And you my friend just Look Up!

 

 

 

Rajasthan’s Discovery – Milana Masci

Hope trunk, tuxedo, grandeur box or bridal trousseau; it has been every bride’s dear most friend during the preliminary months of her married life since decades. With time, the stuffing of this treasure box might have drastically changed but the belief and emotions attached to it remain unchanged.

Earlier what used to encompass of just 11 essential items put together, these days enclose almost every essential that a newly-wed would need to have in her closet to prepare her for all the occasions she would have to be a part off.

With her bridal trousseau in place she would be all set to make a lifelong impression on one and all.

However, the process of selecting the perfect outfit is not always as pleasurable and straightforward as it might give the impression.

Shop hopping
Coping with heavy price tags,
Bad quality of fit & fabric,
No innovative designs,

Dealing with Unprofessional vendors.
are few of the challenges which every family faces during this important time.
If you are not careful, you run the risk of making expensive mistakes.

And so, when I came across this one of its own kind wonderful brand, Milana Masci  owned by Milan Rai Kak from Jaipur, The ONLY One stop wedding destination in Rajasthan

I couldn’t help but to share it with you all.

Venturing her brand into creating pieces that are curation of her mood for the season, you will find that everything from ornamental accessories, to the style of vintage buttons, the pearl & zardozi work on suede jackets receive the same level of Milan’s passionate and loving attention to detail that you cannot afford to ignore.

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Milan ensures that her brand offers bespoke garment and accessory designs that can be easily dawned over a sari to denim with personalised styling and expert hair and makeup notching up statement u make.

The need to mix style with warmth can be tricky but at Milana Masci they ensure that your winters are warm and stylish with their wow segment of beautifully done jackets which gets the mercury rise 😉img_5925

Rajasthan is known for its glorious lifestyle and rich cultural heritage. Royalty is a word closely associated with Rajasthan, the weddings of Rajasthan are a grand affair and they stand apart in terms of style and opulence. The gorgeous wedding attires, Jewellery wedding rituals are mesmerising for any spectator. The splendour of the wedding costume reflects an exclusive appeal.img_5924

Making this special day an unforgettable celebration with a guiding hand Milana Masci aims to offer a flawless styling experience to its clients with curate designs and genuinely sourced handcrafted items.

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Milan Rai Kak the brain and the passion behind Milana Masci says:

We support rural industries and women empowerment through our designs and products.

Milan Rai Kak’s contemporary outlook on life is interwoven with strong traditional and family values. So it is a great joy to her when her forward thinking is supported and bolstered by her family ties.

While the idea of trousseau might light up a twinkle in the bride’s eyes, she needs to be much organised about the whole process. Here’s the way to a well-planned wedding shopping-Only for the prudent bride-to-be at Milana Masci.(www.milanamasci.com)

If you are one of those who is soon to become a bride or groom or have a wedding to be planned for someone in your family, Reach Milana Masci, they will make your whole experience a memorable one. With them, it’s time to spoil yourself with custom made couture fashion that screams class all over. They are passionate about creating captivating and unforgettable experiences for you and your guests that leave a lasting impression.

One look at the collection and you experience ROYALTY!!

 

NO New Year Resolutions- Only Affirmations

A New Year’s resolution is a promise we make to ourselves to be better than we were before.  A New Year Resolutions generally could be a vow to complete an assignment, alter a habit, or a pledge to start something anew for our own betterment. The dictionary defines a resolution as a “firm decision to do or not do something.”

So why is a New Year resolution never taken seriously? Why we all make and then break them?

Do these resolutions really work? Do we really succeed in them?

No-Not really! A lot of New Year’s resolutions have to do with making new habits or changing existing ones. If your resolutions are around things like eating healthier, exercising more, drinking less, to quit smoking, spending less time in the digital world or any number of other “automatic” behaviours then we are talking about changing existing habits or making new habits.

Because these resolutions are more like our habits, wishes or desires, which are at the back of our mind or part of our lifestyle we hardly try to work towards them and that’s why they rarely produce long lasting changes.

Resolutions are based on willpower, not systems. And we tend to give up on our willpower too soon.

But do we really need to put ourselves in a specific block?

Why make one decision on one particular day to accomplish it in ONE year. Instead, we should make positive choices based on what really matters to us.dollarphotoclub_98827135-1-e1452702284726-820x400

With this, thought-THIS Year I am going to try a different practice,the practice of                                                         AFFIRMATIONS

An affirmation is a statement of a truth that you want to exist in your life. It is a positive assertion of truth.

 Affirmations, in my belief, are far more mentally healthy and much more realistic than a new year’s resolution.”When people selfaffirm, they enhance their reasoning process. They have more mental energy to complete tasks after self-affirmation,”

Affirmations gain their power from repetition. The more often you say them, the more they will impact your reality. Affirmations are not a one-time event…say them once and life is perfect. Affirmations are an everyday choice, a choice we make with our thoughts and feelings. The more often you use them, the quicker you will begin to see new opportunities, engage in new healthy behaviours, and feel energised by the direction your life will be taking.

Here are some ways on how to make affirmations:

  • Make your affirmations specific. Want to lose weight? Start by taking a 15-minute walk per day. That’s it. Once you can accomplish this daily, you’re ready to take your next baby step.

Want to quit smoking? Start by delaying your first cigarette of the day by 15 minutes. See if you can gradually wean yourself off smoking throughout the work day. Change takes training, it doesn’t happen overnight.

  • Adopt the Three Ps: These are the qualities Peak Performers use on a regular basis. •    Persistence •    Perseverance •    Patience
  • Dream Big, Start Small: It’s never too late to make changes. You’re held back only by your imagination – so dream big, you only go around once. Begin taking small steps towards accomplishing the changes on your list.
  • Keep your affirmations focused and believable, realistic and attainable. Don’t set yourself up for failure: It takes time to give up old habits and replace them with new and healthier habits. Too many people give up if they do not see immediate results. That’s why it’s important to be realistic in setting goals.
  • Essentially, it is important to draw a line between your wants and your feelings. The feeling is the focus.
  • Make a list of things you want to improve in your life that is the best way to create affirmations in your life.
  • Break your goal into a series of time-based steps
  • Always state your affirmations in the present tense.
  • Give yourself small rewards for achieving your each step
  • Always keep your affirmations brief and simple.It’s also a great idea to keep them in a visible place… at your work table, or on the bathroom mirror or your bedside.

Expect to have small setbacks, and don’t make these a reason to give up altogether

Enjoy your affirmations. repeat them, brush them, and whisper them, allow yourself to sweep up in their joy. There is no stress, no timeline, just life. You have infinite possibilities to dream of and build in front of you.

Throughout the year, take the time to make a note of your special achievements and milestones on a slip of paper and store them in a Box.

Come next New Year’s Eve or Day, go through the notes and be sure to pat yourself on the back for everything you’ve done. Once you’ve acknowledged all that you’ve accomplished, you’re in the right mindset to start setting new goals and affirmations for the approaching year.

This year use science to create and stick to your New Year’s affirmations.

 My Best wishes for a wonderful New Year indeed!

May it be filled with astonishing treasures, loving associations, great health and new successes!